What I’m Like Personally

I’m warm and friendly, soft-spoken, smart, serious but rarely solemn, and interested in everything and everyone, including you. I hope you’ll find me compassionate, connected, and, on a good day, wise.

I’m an extrovert (which, believe it or not, is unusual in my field) so I look forward to sessions and enjoy them greatly. Some therapists worry about burnout, but for me it’s just the opposite: seeing clients raises my energy level. You’ll benefit by having a therapist who’s alert and engaged.

I’m mild-mannered and cheerful, so people often think I’m laid-back, but I’m actually quite focused. You’ll see this in how hard I work outside of sessions. Don’t be surprised if I bring in exercises, handouts, and research summaries written just for you.

I speak plainly and don’t “sound like a therapist.” I won’t throw around diagnoses, or point out that you’re libidinally cathecting objects (unless that’s your idea of a good time). I often use humor, and have a soft spot for affectionate teasing.

Some personal information:

  • I have a son who majored in math, minored in physics, and now has a tech job in the Midwest
  • I have a step-daughter who’s a teacher, with three daughters of her own
  • I have a wonderful sweetie who’s a professional musician, which means I attend more baroque operas than a normal person would
  • We share our home with Jack (the timid tabby with a big heart) and Mason (the cairn terrier with a big personality), and thousands of books
  • I love reading, movies, French, and a wide variety of popular music
  • I’ve had previous careers as a computer scientist and a crossword-puzzle constructor
  • I’ve been a huge Celtics fan for 30 years